Tuesday, May 05, 2009

Free Range Kids


I avoid blogs and sites that are focused on raising kids since we are pretty much done.
The Boy is 17 and our relationship is undergoing a subtle change so I'm not really looking for advice any more. He is turning out pretty well and even with his various learning disabilities we are getting a good vibe on how he will be able to navigate adult life and his ideas of what constitute success and happiness.
Except when my our parenting style and beliefs are validated by others. We decided a long time ago that you cannot protect your kids from everything, that harsh dictatorial discipline (you know who you are in my family) does not help kids learn about life or make help make them happy/successful adults, that they need freedom to grow and should be allowed to make their own choices within a sane structure.
So, of course, I am now loving Free Range Kids.

Basically the writer (who is the "horrible mom" who allowed her 9 yr old (gasp!) ride the subway alone...I ask you how do they ever learn to do this shit if you never let them?) pretty much sums up how I think kids should be raised:

Do you ever let your kid ride a bike to the library? Walk alone to school? Take a bus, solo? Or are you thinking about it? If so, you are raising a Free Range Kid! At Free Range, we believe in safe kids. We believe in helmets, car seats and safety belts. We do NOT believe that every time school age children go outside, they need a security detail. Most of us grew up Free Range and lived to tell the tale. Our kids deserve no less. This site dedicated to sane parenting. Share your stories, tell your tips and maybe one day I will try to collect them in a book. Meantime, let's try to help our kids embrace life! (And maybe even clear the table.)

Sane parenting.
Awesome, and she has collected them into a book called, what else?, Free Range Kids.
I've added the site to the blog roll and suggest my more "intense" parenting readers might want to buy the book and relax.

1 comment:

Trudy Callan said...

Interesting. Food for thought.

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